Baby Addiction?

February 27, 2009 in Uncategorized by mom | No comments

I came accross this comment on a baby/family/baby products website: 

“Women who become addicted to that absolute dependence, or to the feelings associated with having a newborn around, may be perfectly content with their families… up until there isn’t a newborn present any longer, and then the urge to have a new baby sets in. It’s when those urges run counter to the best interests of the family, especially with regard to the capability to provide and care for more children, that baby addiction becomes harmful. Experts are quick to point out that there are plenty of big, happy families that are not the result of baby addiction. They also emphasize that children in small families can suffer emotional scars, too, from absentee or otherwise poor parents…”

Interesting…

Let the failing industries fail!

February 18, 2009 in Uncategorized by mom | No comments

Yes let them fail!

We should not be bailing out an auto industry that has been outdated

 

We should not be bailing out a financial industry that has been irresponsible

 

And we should not be bailing out home owners that have been greedy.

 

We know, unfortunately, many people will lose their jobs if these industries do actually collapse. Not that they will not collapse even with the billions of dollars of tax money. If you do not adapt you cease to exist. What we are seeing  in the current environment is actually evolution. The auto industry or the management in the auto industy refused to reinvent themselves. They continued building expensive , inefficient, low quality cars that the public does not favor anymore. And we all now know what is going on in the financial industry, major credit crisis etc.  Weren’t we told that we should not spend more than we earn, don’t buy the plasma  TV just because your neighbor has one, buy it if you can actually pay for it, not if you can put it on your credit card and pay the interest only every month. Don’t buy the mcmansion to show off, if you are a 3 people family why the heck you need a huge house with 10 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, powder room, garage for four cars? One bedroom for each member of the family, one bedroom for the house pet, one bedroom for the guests that visit once a year, one bedroom for God knows what!

 

There is an old Turkish saying:  Stretch your feet according to your blanket.  Which is said to make a point in saying that one should spend according to his/her means. A friend of mine told me another good one the other day, this is from an African country: Do not hang your hat where you can not reach. Got it?

If the Octuplet Mom were a millionaire…

February 16, 2009 in Uncategorized by mom | No comments

If the Octuplet Mom were a millionaire would people still critisize her? Are people outraged because she is having many kids on tax payer money ( turns out she is on wellfare or had food stamps at one point) or because it is the norm now to have maximum two kids? Especially in the cities. If you are an upper class family with decent income living in a decent neighborhood and you are white the limit imposed on you is two kids! If you have three people think you don’t know how to protect, failed to take your pill or your husband is stupid enough not to know how to use a condom! Or you must definitely be from a hillbilly family ! Why? Why can’t we have 3,4 even 5 kids kids if we can afford it????

My daughter does not want to sleep in her bed at night

February 15, 2009 in Uncategorized by mom | No comments

Our biggest challenge these days is getting our 19 month old daughter sleep in her own bed at nights.  When she takes a nap during the day, usually for an hour or two, she has no problem sleeping in her bed in her room but at night she fights with us. Sometimes for hours. We tried everything: we held her in a rocking chair, we sang to her, held her hand, rubbed her head, put her down and left the room, turned the lights off, turned the lights on, played relaxing music, put her stuffed aninals in the bed with her, and we even tried let her cry non stop until she is exhausted and she will fall asleep.  The last one we hated, I hated it more than my husband I think. It was really heart breaking to put her down and leave her when she was crying her guts out. We did check on her from time to time and tried to reassure her that we are here but she just would not stop crying. She cried non stop for two hours and I gave up. She fell asleep as soon as I picked her up. She held my arm really tight, she was so tired and she just dozzed off in my arms. I will not try that again , this method I find very selfish and heartless.  After she feel asleep I cried for a while because I was feeling guilty that we let her cry that long. My nanny says that some children are very stubborn and it is best not to get into a power struggle with them. My mother in law visited us for two weeks and she claimed that she can put my daughter to bed and train her to sleep in her bed on her own. Well guess what she ended up either getting up 10 times a night or taking her to bed with her some nights.
Anyway I like cosleeping but my husband does not like to get kicks in the face or smell a full diaper when he is sleeping.
The thing is my daughter never slept through the night and it was even worse when she was smaller, she woke up a million times crying. She just does not like to be alone at night….It is surprising because she is a pretty independent character in general.
Any suggestions ?
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First time blogging, really blogging

February 15, 2009 in Uncategorized by mom | No comments

So this is my first time blogging, other than a jewelry design site I have created years ago but mostly copied and pasted news, trends etc from magazines and other sites. It was fun for a while, until I had my daughter and then unfortunately I did not have time to update it. I still keep it up but do not post anything new anymore.

I drow my husband alittle crazy creating this blog, I changed my mind a million times, could not find a design template that I really liked so decided to use the default.

So it is really my first time blogging, it is probably kinda like writing a diary except now I publish it to the whole world. Better be careful with what I write. I always had a sharp tounge so it will be hard to censor myself at times, which may make it more fun to read but I may get myself in trouble in the meantime.

Oh , well hello people. I plan on writing about my experiences as a mother, wife, working woman, sister, daughter, crazy bitch, on a diet woman, shopper, jewelry designer, friend, stranger and more…

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